There’s a lot of discussion in the world about “if you wait until you’re ready, you’ll never do it” or “don’t wait until you’re ready, the world is at the end of your comfort zone.” For many people “ready” seems like a dirty word. It’s an excuse or a limit to what you can do, a crutch. But crutches exist for a reason—to help you walk when you’re injured.
There’s so much advice online about talking to oneself as a friend. You’re supposed to stop the negative self-talk that’s just making you more anxious and depressed. One of the number one pieces of advice on the internet is to treat yourself with kindness. You write out positive affirmations and say them into the mirror. Or you repeat mantras.
I find it absurdly difficult sometimes to know what I actually want or need.
It can be really simple—like what I want to cook and eat for dinner. Sometimes it’s a bigger decision, such as do I want to go on that almost free trip to Miami with my significant other, who is going for conference? Or is it too much hassle or expense for just a couple of days?